I have a bit of time on my hands right now, recovering from knee replacement surgery. And I notice that I have not written a blog entry for awhile. So I’ve been thinking about what might be a good topic for the blog. This topic came to mind, as I am realizing these days that life indeed is short, and contemplation on these matters has benefit to someone at any age.
So, what are the elements of a life would be considered as “well-lived”? An article written in Psychology Today, published in March 2022, points out that everyone has a slightly different definition for this, but the author summarizes what is thought of as general agreement from three key factors:
—Unfolded self and life, which refers to the extent to which one can pursue projects that personally matter, be their unique self and lead a true life.
__Worthwhile life, which relates to the perception that one can invest one’s own capacities and live a meaningful life, and
__Positive impact and legacy, referring to making a positive difference, leaving something of value, and doing something with one’s life that matters to others.
In addition to these key elements, the article goes on to say that certain character strengths are related to life fulfillment. Qualities such as hope, making efforts to attain goals, doing things wholeheartedly with a giving spirit are relevant.
“The good life is not a self-centered life,” they say. “Helping others, passing on one’s experiences, or making a difference in one’s environment—which can happen even on a small scale—provides people the feeling that their lives matter. The beauty of this concept is that one can make a positive difference in another person’s life regardless of age or resources.”
Barbara Waxman wrote an article published in January 2023, offering seven guidelines for a Life Well-Lived: (www.community.thriveglobal.com)
1. Choose Your Words Wisely “They matter!” Jesus, in Matthew 12:36, said this: “But I tell you that everyone will have to give account on the day of judgment for every careless word they have spoken.” Sobering.
2. Create Your Own “no regrets” model. “Sometimes this requires a certain amount of humility and self sacrifice-but the benefit will be worth it.”
3. Stay Curious. Always. “Being willing to learn new things is a silver bullet for vibrant longevity.”
4. Invest in Multi-generational Relationships “We need each other! This has been especially true this first week after my surgery. The prayers of my friends and family, and the help from family members has been absolutely essential for my rehabilitation.
5. Ditch Retirement for “preferment”—which implies designing your own course of action rather than going with the stated social norm. “Follow a path that fuels your passion and meets your financial, emotional, social and physical needs.”
6. Give Your Time, Talent and Treasure—In other words, be of service! The world can use your gifts!
7. Align Your Healthspan and Lifespan. Health is everything when it comes to quality of life. “And one’s physical health, emotional well being and the accumulated effect of daily lifestyle choices are inextricably linked.” I guess it’s one reason for this hopefully short season of recovery from a surgical procedure that will give me better quality of life!
So, all of the above is well and good, but if I am honest, it comes primarily from a psychological perspective. As a Christian with a Christ centered world view, I must add that a life well lived considers what is good and pleasing to God, one that honors Him and places faith in His steadfast love and ongoing faithfulness to His promises. My day to day choices, what I say and do keep this in mind, reminding me that I am not alone and on my own as I journey through this life. I am thankful for this truth. It slows me down, allows for silence, grace and true joy, even in the midst of challenging circumstances.
May the Lord be able to say to me at the close of my earthly life, “Well done, good and faithful servant! Enter into and share in the joy, delight and blessedness of your master!” (Matthew 25:23) May it be for you as well, dear Reader.
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